I HAVE TO SUBJECT TO MY WIFE, BUT THE TRUTH IS…
My name is Edmon, I have been married for three years. My friends and neighbors often joke that I “ignore” my wife. At first, I was a little surprised by their jokes. It was as if they wanted to show me that I had no right to make my own decisions, that I was just an obedient person. But if you ask me, that is not true.

In fact, I have learned that obeying my wife is not a weakness, especially when it is for the good of the family.

An example is one night, I came home from work. I was very tired, but a group of friends came over to invite me for a drink. “Come with us, even just one bottle,” they said. I wanted to agree because I had not seen my friends for a long time. But my wife called.

“Honey, are you home yet? The baby is sleepy, she wants to see you before going to bed.”

I was silent for a moment. If I were the only one who could listen, I would join the group. But I thought of my wife and children waiting at home. So I told my friends, “Sorry, I’m going home. Next time.”

They laughed, and one even said, “That’s right, under! I’m scared of my wife!”

I just smiled. But deep down, it wasn’t fear. It was love.

It was time for us to make a decision…

After a few months, I became more and more convinced of myself that I was doing the right thing. It doesn’t mean that I’m weak when I obey my husband, but that I just know how to appreciate the person who loves me and our family.

One day, a big temptation came. An officemate of mine told me about a “sideline” offer. The money would be great, but it was obviously not legal. He said:
“Edmon, if you join me, you’ll make money quickly. You won’t have to wait a few years before you advance. In just one month, you’ll earn more than your salary.”

I paused for a moment. A thought crossed my mind: “If I were here, maybe I could buy my family things faster, our life would be easier.” But that night, while I was in bed, I told my husband about the offer. He was silent for a moment before answering:
“Hon, not all easy money is right. Yes, we might get rich quickly, but in return, there will be anxiety and fear. I don’t want my baby to grow up thinking that his father’s way of earning money is wrong. I would rather choose a simple life, as long as it is honorable.”

I fell silent. In my heart, if only I could be followed, I might have given up. But in that moment, my wife proved once again why I should listen to her.

And I don’t regret it. A few months later, there was an opportunity at work to get promoted. The salary was higher, the situation was easier. If I had chosen the wrong path back then, I probably wouldn’t have experienced it again.

Sometimes, when my friends were chatting, they would still tease me:
“Edmon, you really are always under your wife. You have no brain!”

I just smiled and answered them:
“You know, if under means I put my family before my vices, if under means knowing how to listen rather than being arrogant, and if under means knowing how to respect one’s wife—well, ‘yes,’ I am under. But honestly, being under feels better than being careless.”

They were all silent. And in that moment, I felt like I didn’t need to prove my “manliness” to others. The true measure of a man is how he protects and cherishes his family.

That’s when I understood even more:
Being “under” is not a curse, but a blessing—because I have a husband who is right, strong, and willing to fight for what’s right for us